One of the annoying things about keeping the bun in the oven secret to ourselves for 12 or so weeks was that we had a whole butt load of questions that would have been perfect for you cats that have already been down this road. We were pretty freaked out with it at first. Lots of okay now whats. We seem to be calmed down a bit now. The cat’s out of the bag and there are plenty of helpful friends and family gathered around with stories and advice. I’m sure the giant freak outs will come when the third trimester is here and baby’s ready to spring forth.
We went in and had our first ultrasound and blood tests about a week and a half ago. That was pretty amazing. We got to see the blurry little ball that is baby. The technician that operated the ultra sound said that the form of ultrasound technology used now to get such a clear picture of baby this early on is only 3 years old. Wow. Cool stuff.
Everything checked out. Good ultrasound and perfect blood work. Baby is in good shape so far.
We were so worried that there was going to be something wrong. I’m not sure why we were so worried. I guess irrational fear is par for the course?
This got me to thinking. I am now signed up for a lifetime of concern and worry. That got me calmed down a bit actually. Baby’s first ultrasound is just the beginning. I will be concerned with baby’s well being for the rest of my life. I mean look at Mr. Baptist. He just turned 66 and still has the concern and worry of his baby giving birth to my baby. My parents will also always be concerned with how I’m doing. I guess I knew this all before but I didn’t really KNOW it like this. Being concerned and invested in the well being of another human is new for me. I don’t worry about myself at all. I worry about K on occasion but not like this. This is something new. It probably won’t be so dramatic in a few years though right?
I need to get my thesaurus out and look up some new words for concern.
A couple of books have been pretty good for us so far. As a new papa I am finding the book “The Expectant Father” by Armin A. Brott and Jennifer Ash to be really good. I’m reading along as the weeks progress. Yes, it was one of the books that he had in the movie “Knocked Up”. While we were watching it I blurted out to K, “Hey, there’s my book”.
I’m actually quite offended by all the jokey “dads to be” books that are out there. Treating papa like a big dumb ape. I’m disgusted with the notion that there actually are dudes out there not taking an active role in their pregnancy. Come on guys! Turn off the football game and learn about the little person that’s growing inside your lady’s belly! Step up to the plate and be a man.
So yeah, due to the jokey nature of a lot of the dad books (that aren’t The Expectant Father book), I’m finding K’s mommy books to be far more informative. My favorite of hers so far is “The Pregnancy Countdown Book” by Susan Magee. Another good one we got at the library was “The Newly Non-Drinking Girl’s Guide to Pregnancy” by Jackie Rose and Caroline Angel. We really could have used that book before K was outed as pregnant due to her not drinking.
There’s more. There are quite a few books out there. We’ve got a good stack going. I’ll mention more in the future if any of them move me. One that we keep hearing about being legendary that we’re going to check out is “Spiritual Midwifery” by Ina May Gaskin. Looks good.
At the office I have been listening to the PregTASTIC Pregnancy Podcasts. It’s a really good show. You can go down through the list and pick the episodes that cover your questions and concerns. The host of each episode is a group of pregnant women that interview guests and talk about how their pregnancies are going.
It’s kind of funny how this sort of infotainment is only going to be interesting to me for another 6 or 7 months. I guess I’ll be moving on to diaper changing podcasts and kid’s stuff after that.


